A surprising amount of our most meaningful companionship work happens in the homes of people in their later years. People who have not been touched or spoken to with intentional warmth in years getting to feel that again, slowly, with full attention.
This is the territory of our companionship for elderly adults in Melbourne. It is gentle, attentive, deeply human work, and it is some of the most meaningful work we do.
What an experience with us can look like
There is no single shape these bookings take. Some afternoons unfold as long, wandering conversations that go wherever they want to go. Others are slow meals in beautiful restaurants where you feel met across the table, or evenings on a couch with a film playing and a hand held in ours. Most often the booking includes some combination of these, with the gentle addition of touch woven through it.
Touch in these companionship sessions can include:
- Hands held across a table or beside you on a couch
- Hair stroked, face cupped, the small affectionate gestures that have gone missing from your daily life
- Being properly held by other safe adults for the first time in years
- A long, slow embrace with no rush to anywhere
- Cuddles, fully clothed, with deep conversations or soft silence
- Touch that is warm and attentive without being sexual, including hair stroked, back rubs and cuddles
We can come to you in your home, meet you at a hotel or host you at our private space in inner Melbourne. Some clients prefer the comfort of their own setting where the practical logistics are easy, and others love the small adventure of meeting somewhere fresh and stepping out of their usual life for a few hours.
On being met as a full person
The desire to be touched, looked at and met as a complete human does not retire when someone reaches a certain age.
Our older clients are almost always people of real substance, with decades of life and stories behind them, and they bring a richness to a session that we genuinely love. There is nothing diminished about who they are, but they are living in a culture that tends to lose interest in their inner lives, and our work is partly about giving them the basic care of being seen and held.
How we work
Our approach to senior companionship is grounded in respect, and we treat this as a meeting between adults, bringing the same warmth and presence we offer in any other booking. We listen carefully and notice the small things, and we invite real conversation about whatever is alive for you, including subjects the rest of the world may have stopped engaging with. We are equally happy to sit in comfortable silence when that is what is wanted. When touch is part of the booking we move slowly, ask and check in, and the pace is set entirely by you and your nervous system.
Who tends to book this
Some of our clients are widowed and missing the daily warmth of sharing with another person, and others are in long marriages where touch and non-sexual intimacy have faded and they want to feel met as themselves again. We hear from people who have lived alone for decades and want the warmth of a genuine connection, and from people with very specific needs they have decided this stage of life is the right time to give themselves.
We have spent time with people in their seventies and eighties who had not been touched with intentional care in over a decade. We have held people who simply wanted to be cuddled by two safe humans after years without warmth and care like this.
Practical things to know
If sexual contact is something you would like included, we are open to that conversation and it falls under our threesome session. We can also create a beautiful, deeply human afternoon or evening that does not include it. We are also happy to discuss accessibility needs, mobility considerations, hearing or vision support or anything else that helps the booking feel easier. Evie has undertaking Touching Base Disability Training to understand how to support those with additional needs.
Booking us
If this resonates with you, or if you are reading on behalf of someone in your life who might benefit from sustained, attentive presence (with their consent always), we would love to hear from you. Companionship for older adults is one of our most rewarding services, and we welcome enquiries from clients across all of Melbourne, with availability across Australia for outcalls and Fly me to you travel bookings.